Perseverance is a whole mind game. Of course, it is much easier said than done, but this does not make it an impossible feat. There will be many times in your school days, in higher education and in your career where you feel that you are spread way too thin. You may feel that everyone around is testing your patience and you might just feel that you don’t have the endurance to push through. There are normal feelings that every human being goes through in times of hardship.
You would have heard your tuition teachers and school teachers tell you to focus on what you can control and not worry about factors that you cannot place your influence on. This may be seemed complicated to implement, however, it’s the key to perseverance. Over time, you will get the hang of it.
Here are some ways in which you can get past hurdles and achieve success with endurance and determination!
The definition of stoicism verbatim is, “the endurance of pain or hardship without the display of feelings and without complaint.” A true stoic would treat success and his failures as the same. They are complete opposites but emotional weightage should not be placed on either one of them. This is because when failures occur, they make one feel inadequate. And when the same people hit the jackpot of success, they cannot stop bragging about it, and the fear of a failure spoiling their glory in the near future would bother them as well.
Complaining about your hardships only makes those around you feel anxious and you would make yourself feel congested and fearful too. If your stress factors are bothering you beyond your control, take a minute to gather your thoughts and choose one person (very carefully) to talk to and share your dilemmas with.
That person you choose to share with should be much more mature than you, must be steady and well-informed; that is the only way he or she could possibly give you a suggestion or two to flip your perspective or take some action to solve a problem that you are mired in.
You’ve got to remember that if there was a way in, there is always a way out.
Find The Missing Piece
Often times, we miss out on spotting the real problem and channel our energy into unnecessary issues which would have stemmed from something much bigger to begin with. For example, if you are not performing well in your tests consistently, think about what the real cause may be. Are you distracted by family problems? Do you not understand the concepts being taught? Do you have trouble with practicing self-discipline?
Sometimes this self-analysis cannot be done all along by children; they need some sort of guidance. Counselling is a good option, and even tuition teachers could also help guide through this process. It is absolutely crucial to identify the pressing issue and be spot-on with it; that is the first and foremost step to be taken before one can search for a solution.
The Odds Will Be In Your Favour
Every difficult situation will push your past your boundaries and throw you under the bus. You’ve got to think on your toes, analyse your strengths and weaknesses then and there and react to it appropriately with a steady mind. We are inherently afraid of changes despite knowing that life is a journey of transience and impermanence.
Embracing every discomfort and pain will help you find ways to break past them and emerge stronger. An unfavourable situation would seem a mess initially, but it would end up being your ticket to something much bigger and better. Your perspective matters and your level of patience determines how much you gain!